Comments on: Freedom of loss http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/ Views from a Baby Boomer Fri, 10 Sep 2010 01:50:55 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: willikat http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-84138 willikat Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:21:13 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-84138 Love this post. Also. I'm 29. And have lavender sachets in my underwear drawer. Am I OLD-LADY ALREADY? Love this post.

Also. I’m 29. And have lavender sachets in my underwear drawer. Am I OLD-LADY ALREADY?

]]> By: archiearchive http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-84000 archiearchive Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:56:41 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-84000 Late again but I have this feeling you are about to "wear purple With a red hat which doesn't go" :) Late again but I have this feeling you are about to “wear purple With a red hat which doesn’t go” :)

]]> By: alyson http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83828 alyson Sat, 06 Mar 2010 02:58:17 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83828 hankie in cleavage just made me happy, so I vote you do that one, itty bitty, old lady-esque thing so I can think of it and smile. hankie in cleavage just made me happy, so I vote you do that one, itty bitty, old lady-esque thing so I can think of it and smile.

]]> By: Back Nine http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83808 Back Nine Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:45:17 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83808 Steve: You need one more thing. You need me to say, "Put the fucking gun down." Always a pleasure chatting with you. Steve: You need one more thing. You need me to say, “Put the fucking gun down.” Always a pleasure chatting with you.

]]> By: adriannelee http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83803 adriannelee Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:04:43 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83803 Did you notice there is a floral border on the rug next to the round flowered table/chest? Are you also wearing flowers. I'm going to notice and let you know when next I see you. It's very odd/funny that the flowers are attractive to you now. I am finding that I want to get rid of mine and go back to something more sleek. Interesting. You're making us all look around and think. . . :-) Did you notice there is a floral border on the rug next to the round flowered table/chest? Are you also wearing flowers. I’m going to notice and let you know when next I see you. It’s very odd/funny that the flowers are attractive to you now. I am finding that I want to get rid of mine and go back to something more sleek. Interesting. You’re making us all look around and think. . . :-)

]]> By: Steve http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83796 Steve Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:43:35 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83796 If I were suddenly caught by myself I would only need one thing... the TV... that's all I'd need. snif....and the chair... the leather chair. The TV and the chair... that's all I'd need. Snif......and my desk. That's all I'd need, the TV, The chair...and my desk...that's all I'd need. And the lamp.... that's all I'd need... my TV... and my leather chair....and my desk... and my lamp... and I'll be fine, with my computer... that's all I need... and my car...I would only need my car... that's all I need... and my phone... that's all I need... my TV, my leather chair... and my desk... and my lamp, snif!...and my desk... and my computer... and my car... I would only need my car... and my phone... I would only need my phone... so I could call the shrink, the liquor store, the smoke shop and the gun shop. That's all I need. If I were suddenly caught by myself I would only need one thing… the TV… that’s all I’d need. snif….and the chair… the leather chair. The TV and the chair… that’s all I’d need. Snif……and my desk. That’s all I’d need, the TV, The chair…and my desk…that’s all I’d need. And the lamp…. that’s all I’d need… my TV… and my leather chair….and my desk… and my lamp… and I’ll be fine, with my computer… that’s all I need… and my car…I would only need my car… that’s all I need… and my phone… that’s all I need… my TV, my leather chair… and my desk… and my lamp, snif!…and my desk… and my computer… and my car… I would only need my car… and my phone… I would only need my phone… so I could call the shrink, the liquor store, the smoke shop and the gun shop. That’s all I need.

]]> By: Jenn aka Batten http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83786 Jenn aka Batten Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:59:45 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83786 I don't think you're getting old-lady-ish. I think you're just finding a new part of yourself that you're allowing to grow after grieving so long. It's okay, dear. It really is. And I love the painted round chest-thingie. I'd have that in my apartment if it wasn't only about 350 sq ft. (grin) Big hug to you. -J I don’t think you’re getting old-lady-ish. I think you’re just finding a new part of yourself that you’re allowing to grow after grieving so long. It’s okay, dear. It really is. And I love the painted round chest-thingie. I’d have that in my apartment if it wasn’t only about 350 sq ft. (grin) Big hug to you. -J

]]> By: crisitunity http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83762 crisitunity Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:03:49 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83762 These posts, in the last couple of weeks, have really made me think. I am never sure what to say, because I have never lost someone the way you lost your Mister and don't have anything worthwhile to add. But I did want to let you know that these posts are not going unnoticed. I have noticed recently that as I get older, I change in ways that I thought I never would, fulfilling some cliches that used to infuriate me. There doesn't seem to be any stopping that. So maybe, as you have it, old-poop-ism is intruding on your taste. In the other perspective, after four years living together I'm still not sure how much of myself I should splatter all over the house I share with BF - is a lavender bedroom too much? - and how much I should assume actually <i>would</i> bother him, and he just won't say anything because he wants to make me happy. It's confusing. These posts, in the last couple of weeks, have really made me think. I am never sure what to say, because I have never lost someone the way you lost your Mister and don’t have anything worthwhile to add. But I did want to let you know that these posts are not going unnoticed.

I have noticed recently that as I get older, I change in ways that I thought I never would, fulfilling some cliches that used to infuriate me. There doesn’t seem to be any stopping that. So maybe, as you have it, old-poop-ism is intruding on your taste.

In the other perspective, after four years living together I’m still not sure how much of myself I should splatter all over the house I share with BF – is a lavender bedroom too much? – and how much I should assume actually would bother him, and he just won’t say anything because he wants to make me happy. It’s confusing.

]]> By: TinaNZ http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83756 TinaNZ Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:53:49 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83756 This is really thought-provoking. Now you've got me wondering how much of what I think is MY taste is actually some sort of compromise. I saw a picture a while back of a bedroom all decorated in soft pink, and thought, how lovely - but I'd never try to reproduce that for myself. However, my circumstances are about to change (very short version - partner moving out to give his young nephew a better chance in life) so I wait with interest to see if I start blossoming into the florals. This is really thought-provoking. Now you’ve got me wondering how much of what I think is MY taste is actually some sort of compromise. I saw a picture a while back of a bedroom all decorated in soft pink, and thought, how lovely – but I’d never try to reproduce that for myself. However, my circumstances are about to change (very short version – partner moving out to give his young nephew a better chance in life) so I wait with interest to see if I start blossoming into the florals.

]]> By: Jan Ross http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/2010/03/01/freedom-of-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-83751 Jan Ross Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:09:08 +0000 http://www.fromthebacknine.com/blog/?p=1517#comment-83751 My house is pretty much decorated to my taste, since my husband doesn't care as long as he has his electronic gizmos. So it would pretty much be the same if he was gone. But I would have a cat. Maybe two. But no more than that. I wouldn't want to become that cat lady. You know the one I mean. My house is pretty much decorated to my taste, since my husband doesn’t care as long as he has his electronic gizmos. So it would pretty much be the same if he was gone. But I would have a cat. Maybe two. But no more than that. I wouldn’t want to become that cat lady. You know the one I mean.

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