Shipmates

He sits at breakfast, his gray cardigan shrouding the gaily colored Hawaiian shirt. The old woman notices he does not have butter for his roll. She rises and totters off to solve his culinary needs, as has been her custom for decades. The crowds bellying up to the buffet are thick and protective of their space, so she is gone a long time. And perhaps she is not terribly eager to return to his sullen presence. His patience is tested. His face morphs from frown to concern. Without warning he throws back his head and bellows, “WHERE ARE YOUUUU?”

***

I observe that on cruise ships, the older the woman the more bling she wears. “Mutton dressed as lamb,” I mutter to my sister. “The more mutton dresses this way, the more it becomes normal for mutton,” she replies. I am left with no closing remark.

***

There are only three children on this long cruise, all girls in one family that is moving to New Zealand. I meet them because Emma has studied salamanders in school and I am wearing a salamander pin. She notes I am wearing glasses, too, as is she. Clearly I am a superior sort of grown-up. The parents seem desperate for adult company; no one really wants to join their table of chattering, wriggling kiddies. On the other hand, these kids have the entire staff and all the play equipment in the children’s club to themselves. Their memories of this crossing will be very different from Mom’s and Dad’s.

***

Overheard at 7:45 a.m.: “Where’s Jan? She’s not still in bed, is she?” In one statement, the speaker reveals herself as that judgmental type who has no idea why she has so few friends.

***

We sit on deck in the evening after dinner. A young couple joins us which surprises me somewhat since they tend to gather with their own kind. The woman eases the conversation to subjects that interest both her husband and us. Then she leaves for the casino, where he does not want to go. We realize we have been selected as non-threatening companions for her man; to her we’re as sexless as old socks. Does he recognize the manipulation? Sis and I are amused and, I admit, a little hurt.

8 Responses to “Shipmates” »»

  1. Comment by Jennifer | 09/29/07 at 1:22 am

    Awwww… don’t be hurt! You’re the more fun non-threatening companions. Note that the young woman didn’t choose the guy with the gray cardigan or his wife who is still probably trying to find the butter for the rolls.

  2. Comment by Donna | 09/29/07 at 6:11 am

    That is kinda jacked up, too bad there isn’t a strip club on board, you could pretend you are lesbians and take him there with a bunch of dollar bills.
    That would teach her to underestimate women of our age. We are wily.

  3. Comment by Lucy’s Mom | 09/29/07 at 7:56 am

    My siblings and I were once the only children on a troop ship. Not exactly a “cruise” ship but a huge ship nonetheless. My Dad was the “top dog” and the family was hitching a ride back to the States. I was 13 and on a ship with hundreds and hundreds of men. I doubt my parents ever gave it a second thought. Boy, things are sure different today aren’t they? On the other hand, imagine the poor soldier who dared to “mess with” the commanding officer’s daughter. I guess they all had better sense. All of us kids were spoiled rotten by the many men desperately missing their own families. I realize you’re in a different scenario and the kids are not much appreciated, but I do wonder how those children feel, adrift among so many, many adults. Aside from old men in gray cardigans, annoying children and being perceived as “non-threatening”, I do hope you’re having a good time. Cruising, in and of itself, is a wonderfully fun thing to do, at least to me. I do love cruises. Enjoy!!

  4. Comment by Anonymous | 09/29/07 at 6:25 pm

    My cruises we’re much different…. well maybe not so much. But they were very long. There were children, but all were at least 17. Amazingly, when push came to shove, all became men very quickly. There were no girls. Maybe too bad… maybe not. I don’t know. i worked on the flight deck. I liked it. Pretty much on my own to do my job. But, let’s face it, not many amenities. But, I used to love watching the ocean. I would spend many of my off hours on the fantail, in the hanger bay or on the island just watching the sea. Calm, at times, violent at times. At times it was if it was asking me to come to it, at times, warning me to stay away.

    However it effects you, it’s a wonderful thing. Not many get to experience such things.

    I have never taken a “civilian” cruise. But I am sure there are similarities. The sea. It is a marvelous thing to see.

    And only if you could have been there to put it into words.

  5. Comment by Linda | 09/30/07 at 9:43 am

    Anon: My life is richer because you chose not to answer when it beckoned to you. Our world’s are very different; you are a surly old bastard whereas I am easy going and not the least bit opinionated. Getting to know you has been approximately like trying to pet a smart old alley cat. But you are so worth the effort. Rage on, my dear.

  6. Comment by Testing | 09/30/07 at 11:15 pm

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  7. Comment by Jhianna | 10/01/07 at 3:12 pm

    Again you amaze me with your ability to paint such vivid pictures of people and circumstances that I feel like I experienced it first hand.

  8. Comment by Steve | 10/01/07 at 6:14 pm

    Thanks! That’s a very nice thing to say and I appreciate it.
    Different browser and didn’t put the name in. So I’m not anon anymore,,, well, to some.

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